Everyone says confidence is personality, but there’s more to it. These 3 chakras control shyness – root, solar plexus & throat. Find your voice again.
You know those people who walk into a room and somehow everyone just… notices? Not because they’re making noise or demanding attention.
Then there’s the rest of us. The ones who hang back. Who rehearse conversations before they happen. Who feel that familiar tightness in the chest when all eyes turn our way.
I spent years thinking shyness was just my personality—something I had to accept and work around. Until I discovered that confidence isn’t really about personality at all. It’s about energy. And when that energy gets blocked in specific places, shyness becomes your default setting.
The thing is, most approaches to overcoming shyness focus on behavior modification or positive thinking. Push yourself into uncomfortable situations. Fake it ’til you make it. While there’s some good content to overcome shyness out there using these methods, what if the issue runs deeper? What if shyness is actually your body’s way of telling you that certain energy centers need attention?
This is where chakra healing comes in. Not as some mystical cure-all, but as a practical framework for understanding why confidence feels so elusive and what you can actually do about it.
I know this might sound unconventional, but stay with me here. Ancient traditions describe seven energy centers in your body called chakras. These spinning wheels of energy handle different aspects of your life experience.
Most people struggling with shyness have imbalances in three specific areas. I call them the confidence trinity—root, solar plexus, and throat. Each one handles a different piece of the puzzle.
The root chakra governs feelings of safety and belonging. When this energy center is imbalanced, you struggle to feel secure enough to express your authentic self. The solar plexus governs personal power and self-worth. Block this one and self-doubt becomes your inner soundtrack. The throat chakra controls expression and communication. When it’s stuck, your voice literally gets trapped.
Here’s what’s interesting though. You can’t just fix one and expect everything to change. They work together. Picture a three-legged stool. Knock out any leg and the whole thing crashes down.
That being said, you can definitely try to work your own process through chakra opening. Books, videos and tutorials will be very helpful. However if you need expert help there are people out there who offer energetics guidance which might not be specifically about chakras, but can assist you in re-establishing your complete energetic balance.
At the base of your spine sits what functions as your internal security system. When this energy center is balanced, you feel genuinely grounded and stable.
But when it’s blocked? Everything feels threatening. That person who didn’t text back? Must hate you. The meeting where you didn’t speak up? Proof you don’t belong there. Your nervous system stays on high alert, making genuine confidence impossible.
This pattern shows up repeatedly in my conversations with people. They invest in positive thinking and visualization work, but nothing changes because the foundation remains unstable. You’re essentially trying to build on unstable ground.
Your body might rebel with back pain, stomach trouble, or just feeling wiped out all the time. Emotionally though, there’s this background buzz of worry. Not full-blown panic—more like your brain’s stuck on the “danger” channel 24/7.
In social situations, it shows up as that feeling of being an outsider looking in. Even with people you’ve known for years, there’s this sense that you don’t quite fit. Like everyone else got a manual for social interaction that you somehow missed.
The fix starts with grounding. Literally. Get your feet on the earth as much as possible. Barefoot in grass, sand, dirt—whatever you can manage. There’s actual science behind this. Direct contact with the earth’s surface helps regulate your nervous system.
If you’re stuck indoors, visualization works too. Sit quietly and imagine roots growing from the base of your spine down into the earth. Feel them anchoring you, drawing up stability and strength. Do this for just five minutes daily and you’ll start noticing shifts.
Red stones help too—garnet, red jasper, hematite. Carry one in your pocket or meditate with it. The color frequency actually supports root chakra healing.
But here’s the thing most people miss: affirmations only work if you feel them in your body. Saying “I am safe” while your nervous system is freaking out won’t cut it. You need to create the felt sense of safety first, then add the words.
Three inches above your navel sits your personal power center. When this golden wheel is spinning smoothly, you know who you are and what you’re worth. You can walk into a room without checking everyone else’s reaction first.
But block this energy center? Welcome to the world of constant self-doubt and people-pleasing. Every decision becomes a referendum on your worthiness. You second-guess yourself constantly, assuming others know better than you do.
Here’s something interesting—many shy people actually experience heightened sensitivity. They absorb other people’s emotions and energy so intensely that shutting down becomes a protective mechanism. When you can sense everyone’s emotional state simultaneously, withdrawal makes perfect sense.
This one’s pretty obvious once you know what to look for. Difficulty making decisions, especially small ones. Constantly asking others what they think before trusting your own judgment. That sick feeling you get when you need to speak up for yourself.
Your body might react with stomach trouble or digestive issues, particularly during stressful periods. Your gut literally reflects the state of your personal power.
Career-wise, it shows up as staying in situations that drain you because you don’t believe you deserve better. Or not applying for opportunities because you’re convinced you’re not qualified, even when you clearly are.
Core strength exercises directly support this chakra. Not just abs—anything that engages your center. Planks, boat pose, even good posture throughout the day. As your physical core strengthens, so does your energetic one.
Yellow foods and crystals work well here. Bananas, golden peppers, turmeric, citrine, tiger’s eye. The color yellow literally feeds this energy center.
But the real work happens in daily decisions. Start small. Choose what to order without asking for recommendations. Pick a movie without polling the group. Trust your first instinct on low-stakes choices and work your way up.
The mantra “RAM” (pronounced like “rom”) vibrates at the solar plexus frequency. Try chanting it when you meditate, or just think it repeatedly when you need some backbone.
This energy center is located exactly where you’d expect—in your throat area. This blue energy center handles all forms of expression and communication. When it’s clear, words flow naturally. You say what you mean without agonizing over every syllable.
When it’s blocked though? Normal conversations turn into obstacle courses. You’ll have something to say, but it gets lost somewhere between thinking it and actually saying it. And don’t get me started on that horrible moment when words come out wrong and you want to disappear into the floor.
This happens to a lot of us. We learn early that speaking up brings unwanted attention. Maybe you were told to tone it down because you were being “too loud” or “too expressive.” Maybe your ideas got shot down or ignored. Over time, your throat chakra learns that expression equals danger.
Physical stuff is obvious—your throat hurts all the time, your neck’s always tight, thyroid acts up. You might lose your voice when you’re stressed or sound shaky when you’re nervous.
The emotional piece is trickier. There’s this feeling that nobody really gets you. You have meaningful contributions to make, but they remain unexpressed. In group discussions, you’ll formulate the perfect response, but the conversation moves forward before you can share it.
Others compensate by talking continuously to avoid uncomfortable silence, though the communication lacks genuine substance.
Singing is the most direct route to throat chakra healing. Doesn’t matter if you’re tone-deaf or shower-worthy—the vibration itself is therapeutic. Humming works too. Try it while you’re doing dishes or walking to your car.
Blue stones support this center—lapis lazuli, aquamarine, sodalite. Wearing blue can help too, especially around your neck area.
Journaling creates another pathway for expression when speaking feels too vulnerable. Write without editing. Let whatever wants to come out onto the page. This helps clear the energetic backlog around self-expression.
But honestly? The best throat chakra healing happens through practice. Start with low-stakes situations. Order your coffee exactly how you like it. Ask for directions when you’re lost. Compliment someone genuinely. Each time you express yourself authentically, this chakra gets stronger.
| Chakra | What It Controls | When It’s Blocked | Healing Focus | Daily Practice |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Root | Safety, belonging, basic security | Constant anxiety, feeling like an outsider | Grounding and stability | 5 minutes of grounding visualization |
| Solar Plexus | Personal power, self-worth, decision-making | Self-doubt, people-pleasing, digestive issues | Building inner strength | Make one small decision without asking others |
| Throat | Communication, self-expression, truth-telling | Fear of speaking up, feeling misunderstood | Authentic expression | One genuine expression daily (verbal or written) |
The magic happens when you work with all three together. Your root chakra gives you the foundation to feel safe. Your solar plexus provides the confidence to trust yourself. Your throat chakra lets you express that truth authentically.
Skip any piece and you’ll hit a wall. I’ve seen people work on confidence for years without addressing the underlying safety issues in their root chakra. Or focus entirely on self-expression while their solar plexus stays deflated. You need the whole system working together.
Lasting transformation comes through consistent daily practice rather than intense occasional efforts. You don’t need expensive workshops or marathon meditation sessions.
Morning Foundation (5 minutes):
Right when you wake up, before you even get out of bed, breathe three times slowly. Feel yourself connected to the mattress, the mattress connected to the floor, the whole building sitting on solid ground. This sets your root chakra for the day.
Midday Check-In (2 minutes):
Put your hand on your solar plexus. Take a deep breath into that space. Check in with yourself: “What do I actually need right now?” Trust the first answer that comes up. This keeps you connected to your inner authority.
Evening Expression (5 minutes):
Write three lines about your day. What you felt, what you noticed, what you learned. Or hum a song that matches your mood. This clears any throat chakra congestion from holding back during the day.
Weekly Deeper Work:
Pick one chakra that feels most blocked and spend 20 minutes working with it. Use crystals, colors, mantras, movement—whatever appeals to you. The important thing is regular attention.
Here’s where most chakra work falls apart—in the gap between understanding and doing. You can know everything about these energy centers, but if you’re not applying it in actual social situations, nothing changes.
Start with what I call “micro-practices.” Instead of trying to transform your entire personality, focus on tiny moments of authentic expression throughout your day.
In the coffee shop: Make actual eye contact with the barista. Let yourself be seen for those three seconds.
At work: Share one genuine opinion in a meeting, even if it’s just agreeing with someone else’s point in your own words.
With friends: Say how you actually feel when someone asks instead of giving the automatic “I’m fine.”
Each small act builds your confidence muscles. The key is progression, not perfection. Some days you’ll nail it. Other days you’ll retreat into old patterns. Both are part of the process.
Most chakra healing can be done on your own with basic tools and consistent practice. But sometimes you hit walls that need outside support.
Consider working with someone if you’re dealing with trauma around speaking up or being seen. If social situations trigger panic attacks. If you’ve been trying self-help approaches for months without seeing shifts.
A good energy healer, therapist, or coach who understands both the energetic and psychological aspects can help untangle stuck patterns faster than struggling alone.
Red flags for needing additional support: persistent anxiety that interferes with daily life, trauma history around criticism or rejection, feeling completely stuck despite consistent effort.
Seeking support demonstrates wisdom rather than weakness. Even naturally confident people often work with various practitioners to address old patterns and develop their full potential.
Moving from persistent shyness to genuine confidence isn’t about becoming someone different. It’s about removing whatever has been blocking your authentic self from emerging. When your chakras are balanced and energy flows freely, confidence stops being something you have to think about. It just is.
Solar plexus chakra handles most of your confidence, but it works with your root chakra (for security) and throat chakra (for actually speaking up).
Work on clearing those energy blocks and you’ll notice shy behaviors start fading. Once the blockage clears, everything works better.
That’s your throat chakra. It handles talking and creative expression. When it’s balanced, you can say what you mean without getting anxious. Block it up and words get stuck or come out wrong.
You’ll probably notice small changes after practicing consistently for 2-3 weeks. Big shifts in social confidence usually happen around the 2-3 month mark. Real, deep changes can take anywhere from 6 months to a year, depending on how long you’ve been dealing with this stuff.
Nobody’s proved chakras exist scientifically, but plenty of people swear that working on these energy centers helped their social anxiety. The actual practices—grounding exercises, breathing work, self-reflection—definitely help with anxiety management.
For crystals, I’d suggest red jasper or garnet if you want to feel more grounded. Citrine and tiger’s eye are good for that gut confidence thing. For speaking up, people swear by lapis lazuli or aquamarine. I just throw them in my bag or keep one on my nightstand. Some people hold them during meditation, but honestly, just having them around seems to help.
Watch for practical changes: feeling more grounded in social situations, trusting your gut reactions more, speaking up without overthinking it first. Also notice physical shifts like better sleep, improved digestion, or less neck tension. The changes are usually gradual but definitely noticeable.
